Okay – time for a bitch session. I’m really pissed off. Guess at whom? Her initials are JANE!!
Dick’s birthday is this coming Saturday, and usually Dick is never around for his birthday. He LOVES going up to the Boundary Waters in Minnesota and spending time, so usually treats himself to that trip over his birthday. This year, for some reason, he’s not going, so this is one of the first birthdays in many years that he’s been around.
About 10 days ago the subject of Dick’s birthday came up and several of us gals asked Jane if she was planning anything being Dick was going to be home. Her answer was, “What for – this isn’t one of the BIG ones.” Okay – so it’s not one of the BIG ones – it doesn’t end in a zero. So what.
Last Monday night when Ole and I were together with Bob and Carol down at The Local Watering Hole we were discussing the fact that Dick’s birthday was coming and that Jane wasn’t planning anything. We all came to the conclusion that we should have some kind of a gathering for Dick. Bob’s comment was, “Dick is SUCH a nice guy and does so many nice things for everyone, if anybody deserves a party, it’s Dick.” So I volunteered our backyard and fire pit for the location, and Carol said she’d help get everything going.
Following this discussion at The Watering Hole Jane showed up, but not Dick as he was off busy doing something else. Carol and I broached the subject to Jane about having a get-together on Saturday night, kind of a potluck thing and BYOB. She was very noncommittal, wouldn’t answer one way or the other. As we were leaving Carol said to me, “You find out what the scoop is, whether or not they’ll come and let me know tomorrow. My mother makes and decorates cakes, so if this is a go I’ll have her do a cake.”
Tuesday morning I e-mailed Jane and said, “If Carol and I get something going for Saturday night can we count on you and Dick to be there?”
THIS is the response I got back:
I still haven't had a chance to talk to Dick about this weekend. After all it IS only Tuesday and so far this is the first weekend in a long time that hasn't already been planned for us. But if you're planning this thing around (or for) his birthday I guess I WILL have to make sure we're in town on Saturday night. And, BY THE WAY, just because I hadn’t planned anything for his birthday as of yet, didn’t mean that I was going to let it go completely un-noticed. I would think you’d know better than that. I just don’t plan for months in advance, sometime the more spontaneous the better. I may have even had an "impromptu" picnic too.
I emailed her back and told her that we would just let it go then. They should go ahead with whatever plans they had.
The next thing I know my phone is ringing and the caller ID identified the call as Jane’s office. I knew if I answered the phone I would say something I would regret later so I just didn’t answer.
A minute later I got another email from her; “Are you pissed? I never said we COULDN’T do it, I just said I’d have to SEE.”
My response: “It’s totally understandable that you may have plans and haven’t pinned anything down yet. No problem there. What I do have a problem with is the attitude that came across in the email. After all, it IS an email and if you didn’t truly want it to sound bitchy – it’s changeable. And yes, it did sound pretty bitchy. After discussion a The Watering Hole last night among the four of us, it was kind of a general consensus that we would like to do something nice for Dick because he does so many nice things for everyone else. So that was our reasoning – not because we wanted to formulate plans and out-do you or plan something before you got a chance to. It was just a thought and we were just trying to do something nice.
Then I got a phone call from her on her cell and I didn’t recognize the number so I picked up. There she was in all her glory trying to sidestep her snotty attitude with all kinds of excuses, etc. She asked if we couldn’t do this gathering on Sunday night instead. By this time I was so put out with her I just didn’t want to be bothered anymore so I told her it wouldn’t fit our schedule. Her response was, “Okay, then I’ll just call Bob and Carol and make plans with them, then. We’ll have a party and you won’t be invited being you’re too busy.”
Now – here’s the issue. I’m definitely not upset about the fact that they may have had plans for the weekend. What I AM pissed off about is the snotty attitude Jane displayed throughout this whole scenario. Or am I reading things into her replies that aren’t there?
Feedback, anyone? Please???
Dick’s birthday is this coming Saturday, and usually Dick is never around for his birthday. He LOVES going up to the Boundary Waters in Minnesota and spending time, so usually treats himself to that trip over his birthday. This year, for some reason, he’s not going, so this is one of the first birthdays in many years that he’s been around.
About 10 days ago the subject of Dick’s birthday came up and several of us gals asked Jane if she was planning anything being Dick was going to be home. Her answer was, “What for – this isn’t one of the BIG ones.” Okay – so it’s not one of the BIG ones – it doesn’t end in a zero. So what.
Last Monday night when Ole and I were together with Bob and Carol down at The Local Watering Hole we were discussing the fact that Dick’s birthday was coming and that Jane wasn’t planning anything. We all came to the conclusion that we should have some kind of a gathering for Dick. Bob’s comment was, “Dick is SUCH a nice guy and does so many nice things for everyone, if anybody deserves a party, it’s Dick.” So I volunteered our backyard and fire pit for the location, and Carol said she’d help get everything going.
Following this discussion at The Watering Hole Jane showed up, but not Dick as he was off busy doing something else. Carol and I broached the subject to Jane about having a get-together on Saturday night, kind of a potluck thing and BYOB. She was very noncommittal, wouldn’t answer one way or the other. As we were leaving Carol said to me, “You find out what the scoop is, whether or not they’ll come and let me know tomorrow. My mother makes and decorates cakes, so if this is a go I’ll have her do a cake.”
Tuesday morning I e-mailed Jane and said, “If Carol and I get something going for Saturday night can we count on you and Dick to be there?”
THIS is the response I got back:
I still haven't had a chance to talk to Dick about this weekend. After all it IS only Tuesday and so far this is the first weekend in a long time that hasn't already been planned for us. But if you're planning this thing around (or for) his birthday I guess I WILL have to make sure we're in town on Saturday night. And, BY THE WAY, just because I hadn’t planned anything for his birthday as of yet, didn’t mean that I was going to let it go completely un-noticed. I would think you’d know better than that. I just don’t plan for months in advance, sometime the more spontaneous the better. I may have even had an "impromptu" picnic too.
I emailed her back and told her that we would just let it go then. They should go ahead with whatever plans they had.
The next thing I know my phone is ringing and the caller ID identified the call as Jane’s office. I knew if I answered the phone I would say something I would regret later so I just didn’t answer.
A minute later I got another email from her; “Are you pissed? I never said we COULDN’T do it, I just said I’d have to SEE.”
My response: “It’s totally understandable that you may have plans and haven’t pinned anything down yet. No problem there. What I do have a problem with is the attitude that came across in the email. After all, it IS an email and if you didn’t truly want it to sound bitchy – it’s changeable. And yes, it did sound pretty bitchy. After discussion a The Watering Hole last night among the four of us, it was kind of a general consensus that we would like to do something nice for Dick because he does so many nice things for everyone else. So that was our reasoning – not because we wanted to formulate plans and out-do you or plan something before you got a chance to. It was just a thought and we were just trying to do something nice.
Then I got a phone call from her on her cell and I didn’t recognize the number so I picked up. There she was in all her glory trying to sidestep her snotty attitude with all kinds of excuses, etc. She asked if we couldn’t do this gathering on Sunday night instead. By this time I was so put out with her I just didn’t want to be bothered anymore so I told her it wouldn’t fit our schedule. Her response was, “Okay, then I’ll just call Bob and Carol and make plans with them, then. We’ll have a party and you won’t be invited being you’re too busy.”
Now – here’s the issue. I’m definitely not upset about the fact that they may have had plans for the weekend. What I AM pissed off about is the snotty attitude Jane displayed throughout this whole scenario. Or am I reading things into her replies that aren’t there?
Feedback, anyone? Please???
